{"id":43202,"date":"2023-09-23T02:06:00","date_gmt":"2023-09-23T02:06:00","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/polarization.wpengine.com\/?p=43202"},"modified":"2024-03-21T18:30:50","modified_gmt":"2024-03-21T18:30:50","slug":"day-1-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buildersmovement.org\/pdc\/week-3\/day-1\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 1"},"content":{"rendered":"\r\n\r\n\t\t\t\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tBack To Exercises\r\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t
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Stop to Reset<\/h1>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n\n \r\n\t

Before launching off into a new encounter this week, take some time to reflect, regroup, and intentionally choose and prepare for a new course of action.<\/p>\r\n\t

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Exercises<\/strong><\/p>\r\n

\r\n\t\tChoose Your Lift Level\r\n\t<\/h2>\r\n\t

What do you have capacity for today? Whether it’s a light lift, or something a little heavier, taking a step is what counts.<\/p>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t5 minutes\r\n\t\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t15 minutes\r\n\t\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t30 minutes\r\n\t\t\t<\/a>\r\n\t\t\t\t5 minutes\r\n

Here Comes the Judge!<\/h3>

Complete the Blame Intensity Inventory<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n

Take this inventory and assess your tendency to blame. Then, either on a piece of paper or a device, note every time you notice yourself drawn to blame or judge – whatever the cause. You may be surprised by what you find.<\/p>\r\n

Take The Inventory<\/a>

The Science Behind It<\/h4>Our addiction<\/a> to blame and outrage is toxic<\/a> and is a central part of the vicious cycle of polarization we are trapped in.<\/p>\r\n\t\t\t\t15 minutes\r\n

How Do You Derail in Conflict?<\/h3>

Take the Conflict Anxiety Response Scale<\/a> (CARS) assessment and review your feedback report.<\/p>\r\n

Take The Scale<\/a>

The Science Behind It<\/h4>The way we approach conflicts in our lives is strongly affected by our anxieties. These may be based on fears of our own or others’ aggression getting out of control, a sense of helplessness, or concerns over the pain and discomfort conflict may bring. Experiencing higher anxiety levels makes us more inclined<\/a> to experience or instigate conflict. Being engaged in conflict, in turn, tends to make most of us feel even more anxious. Many of us respond<\/a> to conflict in extreme and harmful ways when this happens, stressing our closer relationships.<\/p>\r\n

So, how can you get conflict right? Take the CARS. Then, reflect on how you tend to respond when anxious. Knowing yourself is the first step to changing how you respond.<\/p>\r\n\t\t\t\t30 minutes\r\n

Know (and Grow) Your Positivity-to-Negativity Ratio<\/h3>

Practice cultivating positivity and minimizing obstacles to constructive dialogue<\/a>, or take an emotional reservoirs assessment<\/a>.<\/p>\r\n

The Science Behind It<\/h4>

One of the most powerful findings<\/a> in conflict research over the last few decades is the power of our emotional ratios. That is, how our positive-to-negative experiences of others accumulate over time to grow emotional reservoirs that set the stage for our next encounters.<\/p>\r\nThe relationship will likely withstand and benefit from conflict when we have high positive-to-negative ratios. However, low positive-to-negative ratios mean the stage is set for battle, no matter how minor your conflicts may be. Becoming mindful of our ratios is crucial to constructive conflict management.
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\r\n\t\tDaily Reflection\r\n\t<\/h2>\r\n\t

End the day by reflecting on how your intentions and past experiences with your more politically-challenged relationships can set the stage for problems or new possibilities.<\/p>\r\n

\r\n\t\tSet a daily reminder\r\n\t<\/h2>\r\n\t

Get daily exercise reminders on your phone or email throughout The Challenge to stay on track.<\/p>\r\n

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  • Repair strained relationships with family and friends<\/li>\r\n\r\n
  • Become a less reactive and more effective communicator<\/li>\r\n<\/ul>\r\n\t

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