{"id":43204,"date":"2023-09-23T02:18:52","date_gmt":"2023-09-23T02:18:52","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/polarization.wpengine.com\/?p=43204"},"modified":"2023-10-10T17:51:32","modified_gmt":"2023-10-10T17:51:32","slug":"day-3-3","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/buildersmovement.org\/pdc\/week-3\/day-3\/","title":{"rendered":"Day 3"},"content":{"rendered":"\n\n\t\t\t\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\tBack To Exercises\n\t\t\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t
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\n Week 3<\/span>\n Cross The Divide<\/span>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n
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Complicate to Simplify<\/h1>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n <\/div>\n\n \n\t

Intentionally complicate your oppositional relationship to the “other group” – challenge the assumption of opposition and learn to recognize complexity in both positions – before you zero in on actionable decisions.<\/p>\n\t

\n \n Today's Inspiring Playlist\n <\/span>\n \n Listen On Spotify\n <\/a>\n <\/div>\n
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Exercises<\/strong><\/p>\n

\n\t\tChoose Your Lift Level\n\t<\/h2>\n\t

What do you have capacity for today? Whether it’s a light lift, or something a little heavier, taking a step is what counts.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t5 minutes\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t30 minutes\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\t\tPractice\n\t\t\t<\/a>\n\t\t\t\t5 minutes\n

Open Your Mind Before Making Decisions<\/h3>

Watch the beginning of this brief video<\/a> (ideally with your partner) on integrative thinking. The video is a little slow, so feel free to watch it sped up!<\/p>\n

Watch The Video<\/a>

The Science Behind It<\/h4>“Integrative thinking” is the capacity to unpack complex problems and examine different aspects of them – and approaches to them – from other points of view before zeroing in on what to change and how to go about it. It often involves synthesizing what appear to be opposing views or remedies. This manner of thinking is not often taught in schools, but we can learn to do it, and it is essential to constructive conflict management around more thorny issues.<\/p>\n

Give it a try!<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t30 minutes\n

Complicate Your Relationship<\/h3>

Create a “Life Map” for the other person in this relationship.<\/p>\n

Get Started<\/a>

The Science Behind It<\/h4>The psychologists John and Julie Gottman have created a process called “Creating a Love Map” used in some marriages stuck in conflict. Love may be a bridge too far for the politically-challenged relationship you are currently focused on, so let’s just call this a “Life Map.” Invite your partner to join you. Use this list of questions<\/a> (pick a few that resonate most with you), and try to answer them to discover and expand how much you know about each other’s world.<\/p>\n

Remember, the more you know about each other, the more you feel a strong connection and the easier and more worthwhile it will be to discuss your political differences.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\tPractice\n

Discover Dialogue<\/h3>

Learn, use, and practice dialogue rather than debate. Review the difference between dialogue and debate here<\/a>. With these differences in mind, attempt a dialogue with your partner. Think about steps to shift your interactions in this direction moving forward.<\/p>\n

Most Americans are trained from birth to debate – it seems it is in our DNA. We see our parents do it, learn it in school, see it on courtroom TV shows, and observe our political leaders doing it daily during political campaigns. The message is hard to miss – for all things political, we must stubbornly debate.<\/p>\n

However, debate involves a particularly narrow form of cognitive communication focused on scoring points and winning the game. So, we listen carefully to our opponent’s arguments to locate the flaws in their logic and then weaponize them. Nevertheless, this competitive, win-lose exchange is not all we have.<\/p>\n

Dialogue is an important alternative to conversing and needs to be better known. It is essentially the opposite of debate. In dialogue, we share stories and converse with others to learn and discover new information – about the other person, our relationships, the issues, and even ourselves. This is not a sport, but school, a place where we expand our understanding of complex matters that matter.<\/p>\n\t\t\t\t\"icon-reflection\"\n

\n\t\tDaily Reflection\n\t<\/h2>\n\t

End the day by making a few notes on how to practice and build on these processes.<\/p>\n

\n\t\tSet a daily reminder\n\t<\/h2>\n\t

Get daily exercise reminders on your phone or email throughout The Challenge to stay on track.<\/p>\n

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